When speaking to your child’s teacher, it’s easy to quickly become emotional. We get it. You want to make sure your child is succeeding in every way possible, and from your perspective sometimes it seems like the teacher is the only thing standing in their way. At the end of the day, when you need to broach a sensitive subject (or any subject, really) with your little one’s teacher, it’s important to remember that teachers are people, too. People who, almost always, are just trying to do their best for your kid and the rest of the children in their classroom. Here are a few things you should never say to a teacher, and what you can do to get your point across without causing an unnecessary inflammatory situation. We hope these will help when dealing with kid’s teacher.
My child is easily bored. Is your class going to be interesting?
Teacher work extremely hard to make sure children learn crucial material while also being entertained. They spend hours and hours coming up with ideas on what will keep the students engaged and make an impact in their learning habits. Displays are designed, lesson plans are painstakingly laid out, projects are created, games are played. Asking a teacher if they are going to be interesting or entertaining is demeaning and assumes you have no faith in their ability to help your child grow academically from the get-go. Instead, ask specific questions about the curriculum so you can learn more about their teaching style and their philosophy behind keeping students engaged.
Maybe you should try to make your class more fun.
It is not a teacher’s job to ensure the kids in their classroom are always having a blast. While they will work hard to ensure your student remains engaged and is enjoying and retaining the required material as much as possible, their main focus is on the curriculum. A great teacher works their hardest to get a plethora of information to the students while (they hope) instilling a love of learning in general in your children. Instead of accusing them of not being entertaining enough, ask what kind of projects or interactive ideas the teacher has planned for the year, and if you’re still worried, pick their brain as to why the teacher finds those choices to be effective. They will have a good reason, and you will get peace of mind while understanding the breadth of the techniques and information used throughout the year.
I wish you cared more about my child and their education.
Oof, there’s no way of getting around it- this one hurts! Often teacher feel like their students are their own children. They do their best to make sure that all students are succeeding, and work hard to give students of all learning styles the tools they need to complete their schoolwork now and in the future. Teachers often get into this profession because of how much they care about children’s futures. When talking to a teacher with concern about your student, make sure you’re looking at the situation from all sides and not just placing blame on the teacher because it’s easiest.
You give too much homework. Just because you have nothing to do after school, doesn’t mean the kids have all the time in the world to spend on homework.
Homework can be a tough subject – for students and parents. Students are interested in having a well-rounded life with different activities – like sports, music, and drama – but can often feel bogged down by homework. It’s important to remind students that doing their homework will help reinforce what they are learning during the day. Having an open and constructive conversation about the amount of homework students have will be more beneficial than blaming. If you are truly concerned about the amount of homework your student is receiving, try and determine if there is a better way to structure their schedule to help them find small pockets of time throughout the day to work on things, or if you must approach the conversation with your child’s teacher, be willing to see their point of view as well.
Teachers will almost always welcome open and honest dialogue with parents, so don’t feel like you have to keep all your frustrations to yourself, but it’s important to build an environment that fosters a positive experience, for you, your student and their teachers. Taking the time to have conversations with teachers and thinking before accusing can lead to a much more successful and stress-free environment – for everyone.